“My husband rapes me in the presence of our children,” a
40-year-old trader, Bolanle AbdulKareem told an Igando
Customary Court in Lagos on Wednesday.
Bolanle said her husband, Olasunkanmi, with whom she
had three children in their 17-year-old marriage always
molest her whenever he got drunk.
“Whenever my husband comes home drunk, he will want to
make love to me by fire by force and I will caution him not
to do it in the presence of our children. He will beat me
and make love to me by force while the children watch us.
“There was a day I came back from work and I met my
children, one on top of another doing what they always see
their father do to me,’’ she further told the court.
The petitioner also said her husband always threaten to kill
“My husband derives pleasure in beating me. There was a
day he beat me and broke my leg. One day, he threatened
to kill me, so I ran to one of my relative’s house.
“My husband came there, he met my sister’s husband
ironing his clothes; he snatched the iron from him and
started chasing me with it.
“Seeing his desperation, I ran into the street and my
husband still chased me with the pressing iron.
“Anytime, I reported him at the Police station the Police
always tell me that it is a family matter and refused to
caution him’’.
She described her husband as an irresponsible husband and
father, who did not care about the welfare and education of
the children.
According to her, Olasunkanmi neither cares for her nor
the children, adding that she is the one paying the
school fees of the children.
“He has a tricycle that he is using for business but he
always use the proceeds to drink to stupor and usually loses
self control’’.
She begged the court to dissolve their marriage, adding that
she was no longer in love with the husband.
However, Olasunkanmi, who did not deny the allegation of
raping his wife, however, begged the court not to dissolve
the union.
“Please, do not dissolve our marriage, I still love my wife, I
know I have made a mistake; I will make amend,’’ he said.
The 42-year-old commercial tricycle operator admitted that
he used to beat his wife, whenever she flouted his orders.
“I don’t derive pleasure in beating her but I only beat her
whenever she disobeys my instruction.
“The day I snatched the pressing iron from my in-law, I
only wanted to use the iron wire to beat her and not to
burn her’’.
He said that he was not a drunk but that he drank
The President of the court, Mr Adegboyega Omilola, ordered
the couple to come along with three members of their
families for Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR). He
adjourned the case till May 9 for further hearing.

Honestly this man needs serious help and prayers,rapping your wife in front of your children?beating her threatening to kill her and chasing her with pressing iron is another madness of it own,not caring for your children or paying their fees shows that you are not qualify to be a father,now you are begging?for what? Why are you begging?is it to finally have the chance to kill her or you have changed for the better?beating is something I can never take from any man and no woman should take it because nothing good comes from beating your wife it brings only hate,she is not your child stop beating her,as for the divorce case it is left for her to decide what she wants to do,you can’t force her to remain married to you,you have to give her a good reason to.Gubi

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